3 Steps To Help You Embrace Change

The only thing constant in life is change

Irrespective of time, race, economic background and gender we all experience change. Change is good, it is not always welcomed but it is good and, in fact, very necessary for our growth.
Tony Robbins does a session where he asks the guests, “Who in the crowd loves surprises?” , naturally everyone says they do. To which he responds “Liars, you only love the surprises that you want.” This is true. If you wake up tomorrow and learn you have cancer – that’s a change – not one you’re willing to welcome but a change nonetheless. 


Learning to embrace change is one of the most vital things we can do as we strive to live life fully. So how do we learn to embrace change? There are two eternal laws that have helped me answer this question. 

Firstly, the only thing constant in life is change and secondly, energy cannot be created or destroyed, only transferred.

All the changes that happen in our lives come at different energy levels, think of a bride to be; there’s a lot of love, excitement and an abundance of happiness – really positive energy. Compare that with the passing of a loved one, the energy in that instance is more draining but it is still energy. 


So, how do I channel the energy sufficient to be able to embrace change as it comes? I propose that there are 3 steps that help in this process:

  1.  Be aware. Be aware of your feelings at any given moment in time. Recognise that there are no ‘normal’ moments/days. Be conscience of what you do when you feel happy and excited – are you listening to Beyonce? Are you smiling or laughing? When you feel sad or depressed – be aware the things contributing in the present moment to how you are feeling.
  2. Channel your energy. I believe our energy governs how we view and experience life and when we are able to control our energy state we are in a better position to live more fully. Have a motion you do with your body that can instantly change your energy level. For example, I do a fist-in-air motion when I’m trying to get myself pumped about doing something I’m nervous about, this way you are always able to be in control of your state.
  3. Expect nothing. Shakespeare taught, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.” Think of a time you were really disappointed or hurt by someone, its usually because you expected them to act or behave in a certain way and they didn’t which then brings a whole level of negative energy into your space. Expect nothing – now does this means don’t have goals? Of course not but don’t set expectations for people. 

As you make daily habits to live life at this level you welcome in the good vibes, the positive moments and be in control of your peace. Any change that comes your way - you will be able to surmount & overcome, to conquer & embrace

The only thing constant in life is change.

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