Dating Life of a Female Entrepreneur
Dating as an entrepreneur has not been an easy thing for me. I personally don’t know how other successful entrepreneurs find balance running a business and dating, but for me it’s been a mission.
Entrepreneurs, according to my classification, are perfectionists. We dream big and work diligently until we achieve those dreams. In this way, we become perfectionists and it’s this character or strength which leads to success. We are always looking for the next best thing or great new idea … and this can make it incredibly hard to settle down.
I’m in a relationship with my business and the truth is, my business has a big hold on my heart, it’s actually my first love, my little baby. I breathe it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year, which then doesn’t leave much room for a significant other, let alone going on countless dates with guys who don’t know what they want out of life or an attempt to get to know someone.
Most people around me don’t understand that being a successful entrepreneur is very consuming, demanding and exhausting. So, unless I’m dating another entrepreneur, most guys I date don’t get my unpredictable behavior.
One guy actually told me once on a date “Gladys you must just find the balance”, but from my experience there is no such thing as balance. The truth is work-life balance is a myth for entrepreneurs and the same goes for dating.
Last week out of curiosity I decided to type “dating as an entrepreneur” into Google, and I fund lots of articles telling me to “set time aside” for my dating life and at list go on one date once a week.
But for a serial entrepreneur like myself, this advice is almost ridiculous. As a founder of two companies and a partner in two other, the truth is that the number is only growing, I can tell you with confidence that this type of advice likely won’t work. Which leads me to the conversation I had last night with my business partner NHLAKS after our meeting, where she said something that hit home, ‘If you’re 100% committed to your business, there’s no way around it: something will suffer’. From her respond I couldn’t help but think, is there a way to foster a healthy relationship as an entrepreneur?
If I’m painting an unappealing picture of the entrepreneur lifestyle, it’s not my intentions, but I’m trying to be as completely honest as I can be.
Basically, it takes a very special guy to put up with the life of a female entrepreneur and If you’ve found someone who understands this, hold on to them dearly.
If not, let’s keep looking.
At the end the best thing you can do for yourself is to learn in the meantime to be satisfied with your business, family, and most importantly, to learn to find satisfaction within.