I’m a black female, what’s your superpower?
There’s just something really powerful about a black woman who knows herself, who knows what she’s about, and who is not afraid to appear timid and emotional, yet, she remains a powerful force to be reckoned with.
Standing your ground is not a crime! If anything, allowing the world to take away your voice is a crime against your soul and humanity at large. We need those different voices, we need that touch, and we need that direction. Heck, if you asked me, forget about everyone singing in a choir; if we really want world peace (in my opinion) we ought to make world leaders only females then maybe, just maybe, we wouldn’t find ourselves trying to make sense of words such as Covfefe, coming from one of the most powerful people in the world.
Gone are the days people calling black women loud, aggressive, and we sit wondering even believing that there might be some truth to that statement. I'm sure you’ve found yourself thinking “why can’t I be more subtle?” considering nothing about your existence is subtle. For instance, our different shades of melanin are everything but subtle; our bone structures are many things but subtle.
Every time someone tells me that I'm too strong or (my personal favourite) “Good luck finding someone to marry you”, I simply blush and say thank you. The truth is comments such as this are a clear indication that I’m living my own truth and not imprisoning myself in order to fit the generalized good girl stereotypes. Come on, let’s be frank, how can I talk about how perfect my husband and I are for each other, when he has no idea who I am inside and out? Someone needs to explain the logic behind this. Why would you feel the need to compress the things that make you unique like your passion, your skills, and your dreams in order for someone to find you worthy of marriage? Someone who wants you to be happy wouldn’t even allow you to subject yourself to such insanity.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate men; it’s just nauseating that their glory has to be at the expense of one of the most breath-taking creation that literally births life. Ultimately, as black women, we are not your Carrie Bradshaw’s as much as we’d like to believe that we are, and for my working sisters you’re more like Sex and the City meets Set if Off. Now that’s one hell of a combination if you ask me. I am who I am today because of the amazing women I’ve observed throughout my life. Women who wanted to say something and just said it unapologetically; women who owned the fact that “yes” they can be a bit more emotional than their male counterparts and we're okay with it. And women who embraced that they are a bit more hard core in comparison to their male counterparts.
Go on girl, rock your melanin beauty and just do you. Oh yes, we're here for that!!!