THE ART OF BEING A LADY

I must admit, as soon as I began writing this article, my hands began to sweat and my heartbeat increased a little.

One would think that as a man, putting to paper words about a woman would be a simple task; considering how much women are expected to be naturally all what a man thinks about or rather should think about. Truth be told though, women are a frequent subject of our thoughts and I want to believe this truth stands only for a duration of a set time in a man’s life. But the reason to my slight anxiety attack is that there are not enough words to describe a woman or even her beauty. Actually, there is no objective measure of beauty, simply because a woman is the only creation on earth made to be beautiful in many ways all at the same time; to be beautiful in her many sorts. So I have resolved to not saying much about women and their multifaceted beauty since my vocabulary will not do justice to touching every corner of every sorts of their beauty, I but will focus on the one type of woman called, lady!

I once read: “Being female is a matter of birth, being a woman is matter of age, but being a lady is matter of choice.” I admire so much the courage and fortitude that comes with this particular choice. I mean, being in mind the society in which now log in and what is considered popular, being female doesn’t guarantee a girl will grow up to be a lady and the current self-absorbed culture is not likely to model or promote the qualities. Not supposing that I know much, but allow me to believe that it takes a unique level of maturity for a woman to evolve into a lady. What I appreciate about a lady is her completely different approach to life. 

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A lady understands that her appearance, behavior, and way of communicating provide others with valuable insight into her character. She knows that her true beauty is not acquired at a make-up counter, with a new outfit, or by following the latest trend. Rather she understands that true beauty is first inward. A lady understands that her real strength is not in trying to be like a man, but rather, in being gracious, thoughtful, kind, intelligent, self-assured, and poised. Our society is a case in point for the need to embrace the understandable and, ultimately, achievable principles of being a lady. I believe that the art of being a lady is relevant for today and it is accessible to every woman – young and old. And yes, I said it, it is an art. 

Imagine with me and let’s admire together a woman generous with her time, wisdom, and resources. A woman of her word and follows through with her commitments, whatever the cost. She willingly serves others and extends a hand to those in need. She manages her priorities and time well – understanding that she can only serve others after she has taken care of herself. Her humor, wisdom, and consistent encouragement attract others to her. She maintains a teachable posture and embraces change for the better. She does not compare herself to others, but embraces her strengths and accepts her weaknesses.

This woman models civility in how she treats others; demonstrating respect, restraint and personal responsibility in her appearance, behavior, and communication. Well-mannered and knowing what is appropriate, she is able to navigate various social and professional settings with ease and prestige This woman is well spoken and a generous listener. She  knows how to effectively connect with others and communicate her message. Her words are kind, tactful, and free from gossip. Gracious and inclusive, possessing a strong work ethic. This woman is trustworthy, loyal and welcome, peaceful, loving, and  nourishing environment modest. She creates a a safe shelter from the storms of life. Her actions reflect whom she has chosen to be rather than base them upon the opinions of others. 

Have I painted the picture to you yet? I would hope so. And wouldn’t you agree that this woman surely is worth honor? Well, such a woman is called a lady.