Thick, Fit, and Beautiful

For so many years the examples of “healthy” has been a skinny fitness model, but a new season has dawned where girls with muscles who are thick and curvaceous and are a more representative of everyday women are taking the fitness scene by storm.

For example women like Sbahle Mpisane (@fitnessbunnie), Mapule Ndhlovu (@queenfitnass), Lita Lewis (@followthelita), Marissa (@trainwithmarissa) and Serena Williams (@serenawilliams) are such great role models to being thick and fit.

When you have a look at these women’s Instagram accounts they have one thing in common and that is self-love flowing with each post.

It’s so important to love your body, whether you skinny or thick. We were never made to be the same size or shape and I think it’s high time we celebrate our God-given bodies.

We sometimes focus so much on losing weight that we torture our bodies and minds by starving ourselves, over exercising, counting calories and obsessing about everything we eat with the intention to be skinny. Many of us have been harsh to our bodies, let’s try being more kind to ourselves and let’s see happens.


To assist in this journey of loving your body in its season, here are some questions I would like you to answer.

Are you in the best possible health?

This can be determined by checking your blood pressure, cholesterol, BMI (height and weight ratio) etc. All of these can be determined at your local clinic or seeing your physician.

What are the conversations you are having with yourself concerning your body? Are you saying that you too fat, too lazy, your butt is huge?

Contradict those statements with affirmations that you can say to yourself when you wake up, when you get to your office, in the bathroom, everywhere and at any given opportunity you get, until you believe these words.

Are you active?

In the world we live-in everything are made easy, by having the pleasure to drive everywhere, we can order everything online. Taking a walk or jogging has so many benefits. It is not only good for your health, but also for your mood. Find a workout activity that you will enjoy and continuously do. For some people in the gym doesn’t work, but you have other options such as playing netball or dancing. Your exercise choice and routine will depend on what you enjoy and it should also be stirred by your answer for Question 1.


Let’s now look at ways on achieving self-love:

Be proud of your body shape.

Some women have athletic builds, some have an hour glass frame, and others are petite but be proud of that body because if God could trust you with that body, He knew that you will be able to carry it confidently.

Set an example with your body image.

As women we are role models to girls that come after us, from our sisters, daughters, nieces and any girl that can see you as an inspiration. We need to raise a generation of girls who are comfortable in their skin, and it starts with us being that example. So check the things you say about yourself to others and the things you say to others about their bodies. Are you creating a complex with them?

Appreciate your vessel.

Take a moment to think about all the amazing things your body has carried you through; from surviving a day with only 2-3 hours of sleep, to starving it by only eating an apple, getting drunk and passing out a party.  Our bodies are our own superheroes.

The scale doesn’t have to be your best friend.

When you want to achieve a certain goal tracking your progress is important but if things like the scale is making you self-conscious and obsessive to the point where you have negative habits then chuck the scale out. Your self-worth cannot be based on mere numbers on the scale.

Perfection is the enemy of progress.

You do not have to be perfect to love yourself, to be considered beautiful, to be valued others. I believe that people will learn how to treat you based on how you treat yourself.  When working towards anything always remember to set realistic goals. Lastly, valuing people’s opinion about your looks can rob you not only of peace but as well the opportunity to be the best version of yourself.

Moving forward I hope you will take the time to invest in learning to love yourself because you are beautiful and wonderfully made.

Tony A. Gaskins Jr once said Self-Love; it doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy.